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5 Gadgets to Boot up Your Love Life
Thomas P. Farley - Men's Life Today
Sure you love your mate. But that doesn’t mean you have the same taste in everything. Never fear: Here are five relationship-saving products that will help preserve the peace and your sanity.
Is it Bromance? How to Pick the Best Wingmen
Peter Pachal - Men's Life Today
Meeting women is not a solo sport. For men, it's essential to work in teams -- typically two-man excursions with one man in charge and the other designated as wingman, whose primary role is to assist the pilot. A good wingman can turn a strikeout scenario into a successful sortie. So what kind of guys should you recruit before suiting up for a mission?
Academic Affair: Beware!
Sarah Hubbs - The Real College Guide
Students are often told that getting to know teachers on a more personal level can add up to more academic insight, better grades and stellar reference letters. But there’s such a thing as crossing a line. Here, we map out the warning signs that you -- or an instructor -- may be entering dangerous territory, emotionally and academically.
Say 'I Love You' in a New Way
Say 'I Love You' in a New Way
Catherine Ryan - Life & Beauty Weekly
'I love you' are powerful words. And you count on them to help sustain your relationship. When you and your partner are pulled in different directions -- jobs, kids, friends, family, meetings -- sometimes a quick 'I love you' is all either of you can manage at the end of the day. Showing love doesn’t require dramatic displays of affection. Nor does it take a lot of time or energy. These simple strategies send your message loud and clear
How to Be a Leading Man
Belisa Vranich - Men's Life Today
Just in time for the Oscars, we honor the silver screen's best men -- guys who set the bar for how to treat a woman. And our awards go to . . .
10 Ultimate Girlfriend Mysteries -- Solved!
Belisa Vranich - Men's Life Today
Does your brain get twisted into a pretzel trying to decipher how her brain works? Wondering what to do? MLT's relationship expert clears it all up for you. Here, the top 10 confounding girlfriend mysteries, defounded
Can Long-distance Love Thrive?
The Real College Guide
Before making any sudden adjustments to your Facebook status, take some time to consider your options -- and we're not talking about the many ready-to-mingle singles on campus. Whether you're leaning toward staying together, breaking it off or testing the waters of an open relationship, here's what you need to know before 'the talk'
Full Financial Disclosure Before Walking Down the Aisle
Kathy Kristof
Passion often blinds sweethearts to the fact that matrimony is, at bottom, a contract. Figuring out how that partnership can prosper is critical for a successful union. Yet financial differences rank among the greatest sources of marital misery, in part because talking about money before you tie the knot makes many couples uncomfortable.
Marriage a la Mode
Mary Sanchez
Ladies, you seem to be focusing on matrimony as the answer to your worries -- and overlooking a key truth about marriage today: that tying the knot is becoming more of a boon for men than it is for women. A recent Pew Research Center report confirms what the current recession is bringing home all too clearly, with more men being laid off than women
If You Have a Friend, You Have It All
Ana Veciana-Suarez
After a few months' hiatus, I spoke to my best friend from childhood. Though we live hundreds of miles apart, we can tell each other anything, picking up the strands of various subplots -- children, siblings, work, health -- right where we left off. We vent, we rage, we analyze, we pick apart. We laugh. A lot. Mostly, though, we just let it all hang out. And my, my, my, that feels so dang good.
Grandparent: It's Grand to Be a Grandparent
Ana Veciana-Suarez
Without fanfare or warning, I've become the kind of woman who divides the world into those who know all about Dora and Swiper and Boots and those who don't. On a regular basis and with missionary zeal, I scour entertainment ads for "Backyardigans" shows and check newspaper listings for toy recalls. That's what happens to you when you become a grandparent
Recession Tip For Wives: Lay off Your Laid-off Husband
By Lindsay Lyon
Male breadwinners have lost their jobs at a greater clip than women during this recession. Roughly 74 percent of the approximate 6 million jobs lost since December 2007 have been men's, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. And more than a few therapists say they're seeing an uptick in relationship problems as a result. It's not so much that husbands are resentful of their breadwinning wives. Resentment, they're noting, often flows from the other side.
7 Ways Your Siblings May Have Shaped You
By Lindsay Lyon
Ah, siblings: both a blessing and a curse. Approximately 80 percent of Americans have at least one brother or sister; in fact, kids today are more likely to grow up with a sibling than a father, experts say. What's more, the sibling relationship is the longest relationship that most people will have in their lives.
Positive Psychology in Your Relationships
Lindsay Lyon
By studying hundreds of couples, Shelly Gable has found that when romantic partners disclose positive news, how the other reacts matters -- a lot. In fact, partners' reactions to each other's good news can better predict the quality of a relationship--and whether it will endure -- than can partners' reactions to bad news.
Dating Service Of The Week: Eharmony.com
Eharmony.com brings together people who are looking not just for a date, but for a long-term commitment. More than 260 marriages every day! Utilizing the expertise of noted author and psychologist Dr. Neil Clark Warren, eharmony works!
This Week's Advice Central Topic: Love waits For No One
I am not some slacker waiting for things to happen for them, I choose to make things happen. We all have choices in life and, more importantly, we live with the consequences of those choices every day. This week I want you to change how you live your life. I want you to be bold, be outspoken, take life by the horns and demand that love finds you. Meekness now counts for nothing. Brashness scores the points. Remember that this week.
St. Patrick's Day Win Some Green Contest
To help you find the "little bit of Irish in you" we are giving away $100.00 to one lucky winner. You can enter once every day so enter now here! Contest closes March 17 2010. See the contest page for complete rules.
St. Patrick's Day Trivia
Brush up on your Irish knowledge with our St. Patrick's Day Trivia.
Double Your Dating Tips: Good Karma Bad Karma
The only thing that's real is how much you suck at picking up women!
Catch Him and Keep Him: How To Not Be Down On Yourself When Single
It's hard to help a woman to be ready to meet a great guy when she feels so overwhelmed by the whole dating thing and life in general. There are steps she can take I told her.
The Dating Wizard's Success With Women: Are You Interesting And Mature When Attracting Women?
There is a big difference between interested and jumping to conclusions like being massively interested before you even know anything about her, which would be a sign of immaturity and is not attractive.
David Wygant's Naked Truth: Men And Women Can Be Great Friends
Women love to be teased. From the moment you meet them, they like it when you're playful.
Cool Guy With Women: 5 Simple Phrases That Will Give You Much More Power
This is how guys can stand their ground and communicate their boundaries and expectations to women in a very direct way.
Alex Allman's Revoutionary Sex: How To Tell If She's "Faking" Her Orgasm
The fact is, most women don't have orgasms during intercourse, and many women (at least 1 in 7) have never had an orgasm at all.
Jesse Charger's Blissnosis: How Pickups Go Wrong
Approaching women and facing rejection is by far the worst part of meeting women.
Ask Rob! The Advice General: The Classic Ignoring Game
After a break-up it's common for people to take a "second look" and have the urge to get back together again. But if it's only you feeling this way, you're going to find it harder to get over him, when really, he is already over you.
The Revenge Guy: No Valentine's Day Here
Starting with just screwing around, without a commitment, means that YOU were not ready to commit, not him.
Dr. Dennis Neder: A Sexual Situation
There is nothing so fundamental or powerful than a person's sexuality. It is the basis of every other thing you are. It dictates everything from the clothes you wear to the car you drive to the friends you have to the words you choose to use.
aLoveLinksPlus.com Dating Advice Central
Dating Advice Central at aLoveLinksPlus.com brings you relationship advice, answers to your questions and featured columnists that can help you on the road to beginning, and maintaining, new relationships with people you meet online and offline. You will 'Date Great' when you start with aLoveLinksPlus.com
All Natural Birth Control Options
For those less interested in conventional birthcontrol, here are some home remedies you may wish to consider. No birth control method is 100% effective.
When To Start Baby On Solids.
Has your baby been watching you intently as you eat? Often, when a baby begins to become curious about the foods his parents are consuming, it is a sign that baby is ready to start trying solids foods themselves.
Refinancing your Home Mortgage Loan: Top 5 reasons
There are many good reasons to consider refinancing your home mortgage loan. Consider our top 5.
What to Expect during Labor and Delivery
Each pregnancy is different, but it pays to be educated about your labor and delivery in advance.
What is considered a Full Term Pregnancy?
Most women do not give birth on the exact date determined by their doctor. So what is a fullterm pregnancy and what should you expect?
Newborns: Bringing baby home
Taking your newborn home from hospital can be a joyous but also anxiety-provoking experience, as Julie Fletcher explains.
Ectopic Pregnancy: Can I Carry to Term?
It is usually not possible to carry to term in an ectopic pregnancy, as Julie Fletcher explains.
Am I in labor?
If you are preparing for labor, you've probably thought plenty about the process ahead.
Can Women Get Pregnant With Tied Tubes?
When a woman elects to get her fallopian tubes tied, this procedure is difficult to reverse. It is possible, however, to become pregnant after tube tying.
Your 6th Month Of Pregnancy
Two thirds of the way into your pregnancy? Here's what to expect and think about this month in your sixth month of pregnancy.
Six good alternatives to spanking
Consider these six points before you spank your child. Sometimes, there are other ways to get your child to change behaviour.
Your Third Month Of Pregnancy
Reached your third month of pregnancy? You should be starting to adapt to pregnancy, but here are some things to look out for during your third month.
Your Second Month Of Pregnancy
Is this your second month of pregnancy? Here are some tips for what to expect during this pregnancy stage.
Your First Month of Pregnancy
Is it your first month of pregnancy? Here's some advice on what to expect.
Your Fourth Month Of Pregnancy
Are you in your fourth month of pregnancy? Here's what to expect.
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Lucky in Love and Marriage
If you truly want to be lucky in love and marriage, you need to create that luck yourselves. Two ways you can create a positive and lucky marriage are:
St. Patrick's Day makes us think of the color green, four-leaf clovers, and being lucky.
Happy St. Patrick's Day!
Photo © Larry Stritof
Lucky in Love and Marriage originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Wednesday, March 17th, 2010 at 01:39:58.
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We're Looking for Great Marriage Blogs
We're also interested in the focus of your blog. Is it personal or newsy? Do you write primarily about a particular marriage issue such as infidelity or do you write about marriage in general? Describe your marriage blog! We're Looking for Great Marriage Blogs originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Monday, March 15th, 2010 at 01:39:35.
When husbands and wives write marriage blogs, they generally offer advice and marriage tips or they share their own personal experiences. Do you write a blog about your experience as a husband or wife? If so, please share why you started, how you've done it, and what you've learned.
What Others are Writing About Mutual Respect, Forced Marriages, and Saying I Love you
Erica Kennedy about the importance of saying 'I love you': "... her [Jean] only real regret in life was that she felt she hadn't told her husband [late husband of 63 years] she loved him enough ..." Heather Murdock on marital rape and child brides: "Marital rape is not a crime in Yemen, and currently there is no law that says a 10-year-old cannot be a wife. But in the coming weeks, the Yemeni parliament is set to vote on a new law that could set a minimum age for marriage at 17 years old. This law has been floating around the legislature for over a year now, and won a majority of votes in an earlier vote, but was later blocked by influential conservative sheiks." What Others are Writing About Mutual Respect, Forced Marriages, and Saying I Love you originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Saturday, March 13th, 2010 at 04:04:22.
These three comments about marriage caught my attention today while I was catching up on my reading. We certainly agree with the importance of mutual respect in a marriage and saying 'I love you' to your spouse on a regular basis. We sure hope Yemen does change their laws on marriage. Your thoughts?
Marcia Reynolds about Sandra and Jesse's Marriage: "... he is a strong, successful, independent man who is okay being with a strong, successful, independent woman. There is emotional stability in this relationship based on mutual respect. Shouldn't this be the new model of a healthy relationship?"
Source: Marcia Reynolds. "Sandra Bullock and Jesse james: A Model of the New Relationship." HuffingtonPost.com. 3/11/2010.
Source: Erica Kennedy. "FEM ode: When Erica Met Jean ..." TheFeministaFiles.blogspot.com. 3/11/2010.
Source: Heather Murdock. "Yemen Marriage Laws Under Scrutiny." VOANews.com. 3/11/2010.
What's On Our Reading List
If I find myself wanting to read something on a web page, but know I should stay focused on what I'm researching or writing, I can hit that widget! A disadvantage is that we now have 771 web pages saved. Sigh. Here's ten pages on that list I hope to read this weekend:
A few months ago we discovered Instapaper.com and installed the "Read Later" widget on our tool bar. It has advantages and disadvantages.
If you read any of these web pages, let us know what you think of them.
What's On Our Reading List originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Thursday, March 11th, 2010 at 04:42:16.
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Still Too Tired for Sex
Apparently, sleep deprivation is still taking a toll on sexual intimacy in marriage. Roni Caryn Rabin of The New York Times reports that one in four Americans say they are too tired to have sex. The study was done by the National Sleep Foundation. Both of you need to make getting enough sleep a priority. Brandon Peters, M.D. shares guidelines for getting a better night's sleep. Here are some more solutions if your marriage is running on empty.
Still Too Tired for Sex originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Tuesday, March 9th, 2010 at 03:21:14.
In 2001 and in 2004, we reported statistics about couples who are too tired for sex.
One of the questions asked in the 2010 Sleep in America Poll was "if their intimate or sexual relationship has been affected because they are too sleepy ... About one in five respondents (23% Whites, 20% Blacks/African-Americans, 20% Hispanics and 17% Asians) indicated that their relationships had been affected because they are too sleepy." pg. 34.
Marriages of Academy Award Nominees and Winners
Check out this list of married Academy Award nominees. As they are announced, we will update the list with the winners for the main categories. Marriages of Academy Award Nominees and Winners originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Sunday, March 7th, 2010 at 00:37:26.
For us, part of the fun of watching the Academy Awards is seeing who shows up with who and which stars remember to thank their spouses.
Do You Have Any Dating Tips for Married Couples?
Poll: Photo: Sven Hoppe / iStockphoto Do You Have Any Dating Tips for Married Couples? originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Friday, March 5th, 2010 at 00:03:19.
Most everyone agrees on the importance of married couples scheduling date nights with one another. Yet roadblocks like making time for the dates and deciding on what to do while on a date can get in the way. Do you have any dating tips for married couples? If so, please share them with our readers.
How Often Do You and Your Spouse Date One Another? Vote ~ View Results
So-called "New" Cohabitation Report
When the segment faded to the commercial break, we looked at one another and thought perhaps we missed something. We didn't hear the "secret" other than to choose the right spouse and show respect for one another. The segment was more about cohabitation than about secret formulas for successful marriages. The actual report by the CDC confused us a bit. While the report "Marriage and Cohabitation in the United States" was recently issued by the CDC, it was based on data from the "Cycle 6 (2002) of the National Survey of Family Growth." This is a "new" study? Isn't 2002 around 8 years ago? We suggest reading all the following articles. The different perspectives and takeaways on the same report is fascinating.
One of the teasers on World News Tonight last night was "Cracking the code on marriage! How to keep it strong." The web site link to the WNT segment says "The Secret to a Long and Happy Marriage?"
"Most importantly though, the data show that those who live together have just as good a chance of staying married as those who do not live together first."
"About 75 percent of marriages between men and women 26 years old or older last at least 10 years, compared with only about half of teen marriages."
"Sociologist Pamela Smock of the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor considers the data definitive. "On the basis of these numbers, there is not a negative effect of cohabitation on marriages, plain and simple," she says. Paul Amato, a sociologist at Pennsylvania State University, says the new data suggest that "maybe the effect of premarital cohabitation is becoming less of a problem than it was in the past. If it becomes normative now, maybe it's not such a big deal."
"Couples who live together before they get married are less likely to stay married, a new study has found. But their chances improve if they were already engaged when they began living together ... Couples who marry after age 26 or have a baby eight months or more after marrying are also more likely to stay married for more than a decade."
Here are a few findings from earlier studies about living together.
- The risk for divorce among cohabiting couples married at least seven years is the same as couples who didn't live together before marriage.
- Cohabiting couples in France and Germany have a slightly lower risk of divorce.
- If cohabitation is limited to couples who are engaged, there is no elevated risk of divorce.
- Cohabiting couples in the U.S. who take premarital education courses or counseling are not at a higher risk for divorce.
If you want a long and happy life together, choose the right spouse, show respect for one another, and get married for the right reasons. Love, communication, humor, and honesty are other qualities that help keep couples together.
What is your formula for a successful marriage?
So-called "New" Cohabitation Report originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010 at 02:13:45.
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Silly Fights
Believing that marriage is worth fighting for, The Marriage Ref looks at the domestic squabbles, marriage spats, quirky disputes, and bickering of married couples. The comedy show will not feature serious disagreements that could make or break a marriage or domestic violence issues. We laughed as we watched the show and we will probably watch it again. We remembered an argument we had early in our marriage about aquariums. Bob had set up fish tanks in every room of our house -- including the kitchen, bathroom, and our bedroom. When one of the swordtails jumped into bed with us, I was not a happy camper. What's the silliest thing the two of you fought about? Share your silly fight. Silly Fights originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Monday, March 1st, 2010 at 07:37:12.
This evening we watched the sneak preview of the reality television show The Marriage Ref. The preview included a couple disagreeing about what to do with a stuffed dog and a couple not on the same page with having a stripper pole in their bedroom.
Surprise! Hostile Husbands Increase Wives' Depression Symptoms
Several news sites including MSNBC and Medical News Today, reported about an article at ScienceDaily.com, "Husbands' Hostile, Anti-Social Behaviors Increase Wives' Symptoms of
Depression, Study Shows." It is interesting that the "researchers found no significant relationship between wives' hostile behavior and husbands' depression, unless significant life events, such as a death in the family or a job loss, were present." Christine Proulx: "It's critical that professionals ask people experiencing depression about their close relationships and recognize that their spouse's behavior influences how they feel about life and themselves, especially among women. It is important to intervene at the couple level and make spouses aware that how they act toward each other has a long-term effect on their emotional and physical well-being." Authors and Title: Christine M. Proulx, Cheryl Buehler, Heather Helms. "Moderators of the Link between Marital Hostility and Change in Spouses' Depressive Symptoms." Journal of Family Psychology. Vol 23(4). 08/2009. pgs. 540-550. Where: University of Missouri. How: Videos of 416 married couples at home over a period of three years were coded for anti-social behaviors and hostile behaviors. Surprise! Hostile Husbands Increase Wives' Depression Symptoms originally appeared on About.com Marriage on Friday, February 26th, 2010 at 00:35:28.
We're being sarcastic. We're not surprised. How can people act like this news is something folks didn't already know? Sure, this is more than catching your spouse's bad moods, but marriage experts like John Gottman have been saying for years that negativity hurts marriages.
"But the positivity must outweigh the negativity by five to one."
Source: John Gottman, Nan Silver. "What Makes Marriage Work?." PsychologyToday.com. Mar/Apr 1994.The study explains: "... anti-social behaviors, which are those that are self-centered, defiant or show a lack of constraint; and hostile behaviors that are angry, critical or rejecting ... For instance, being snippy or curt with a spouse, interrupting her, eye-rolling, sneers and yelling were considered hostile behaviors."
We haven't been able to locate the full study online to see why, other than Proulx's belief that women may be more vulnerable to hostility than men and that "It is possible that women's well-being is more closely tied to the well-being of their close relationships than is the case for men."
More Quotes From the Study:
Christine Proulx: "The more hostile and anti-social behavior exhibited by husbands, the more depressed their wives were after three years. These findings suggest that husbands' treatment of their wives significantly impacts their psychological well-being and that hostile behavior has a lasting effect on couples that continues throughout their marriages."
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