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By Emily Brandon
Pat and Jim Solan of Rockville, Md., have taken seven of their 12 grandchildren on vacation--no parents present. The couple usually takes one or two grandchildren at a time on a one-week trip anywhere from the Grand Canyon to the Grand Tetons. Pat, a retired software programmer, and Jim, a former chemist, are continuing a family tradition of intergenerational travel that started with Pat's mother and father, who took each of her four children to Ireland in turn. "It's special to have them all by themselves when there are no parents around," says Pat, 69. "If you had just stayed at home, you wouldn't have gone for that walk in the woods or gone rafting down the Colorado with them."
Here are some tips for successful trips with grandchildren:
Don't be outnumbered
It's a good rule of thumb to travel with only one grandchild per grandparent. "I recommend that you take one at a time because it's your opportunity to be with that grandchild and for you to learn about them," says Helena Koenig, a grandmother of 10 and founder of Grandtravel, a Washington-based travel agency that specializes in intergenerational travel programs. Exploritas, a nonprofit organization formerly known as Elderhostel, offers group travel opportunities for seniors with grandchildren in tow. Exploritas, which organizes trips ranging from hot-air ballooning in Park City, Utah, to Harry Potter-themed jaunts in the United Kingdom, has a rule that there may only be one child per grandparent. "We wanted to be sure that the grandparents and the grandchild actually spend time together," says James Moses, the organization's president and chief executive. "When people brought more than one grandchild, they really weren't having the bonding experience that we think is critical to these programs."
When traveling abroad, bring the required documentation
Passports and health insurance aren't the only necessities for international travel with grandchildren. Grandparents need a notarized letter from a parent or guardian in order to take a child to a foreign country. Cheryl Delisle, manager of
Babies can be demanding travel partners, and teenagers may prefer to explore the world with their friends. Somewhere between is the ideal age to vacation with grandchildren. "The kids need to be old enough so they can be apart from their parents and confident enough to do things, but at a certain point they get too old," says Peter Spiers, a senior vice president at Exploritas. "I think the sweet spot is in the 9-to-14 age range, and after that, they become less interested." Delisle says that ages 8 to 14 are ideal, while Koeing says that most people who book trips through Grandtravel have grandchildren between 12 and 14. "From the time they are able to talk they are generally fine to travel," says Georgia Hope Witkin, a psychologist and contributing editor to Grandparents.com. She adds, "If you offer them the right trip, they could be 19 or 22 and going with you."
Make it a Family Affair
Some grandparents prefer to take the entire family on vacation instead of one or two grandchildren. Every April, Joan and Ben Wood of Acton, Maine, invite their three children, the children's spouses, and seven grandchildren to a resort in Florida. "If we took two brothers, then we would have to take three sisters and then the other two sisters. . . . That just wouldn't work for our family," says Wood, 70. "The grandchildren really love to be together, and they don't get together that often."
Travel at a child's pace
When Lynda Gardner, 57, of St. Louis took her 9-year-old granddaughter to the Caribbean for a week in April, she packed books and games to keep the child entertained on the 4 ½-hour flight. "You have to make sure that the place you are going has activities you can take the child to that will keep their interest at that age, like museums, arts and crafts places, the planetarium, or the zoo," she says. "We went to this one place that had stingrays, and she got a chance to feed them and touch them, and that was so exciting to her." You should also adjust the pace of your schedule to meet the child's needs. "I have to allow an extra hour when I get up to go somewhere so I can get myself together and then get her together," says Gardner.
Leave some activities up to the kids
Invite your grandchildren to make some of the decisions on the trip. "We gave them books for the places we were going to go, and we said, 'Read these books and see if there is anything that you want to do,' " says Rik Alex, 67, a part-time construction consultant in Wayne, Ill., who, with his wife, Nancy, took a 16-year-old granddaughter to Vienna and Paris, and a grandson, 19, to Rome. "Some of the things they picked out were things that we would have never thought to go see." Both grandchildren proved to be unexpectedly helpful. "They carried luggage when we needed help and volunteered to run back to get things we forgot," says Nancy. "Both the grandchildren helped us figure out which train to get on and which lane to get in when we were driving on the expressway." Several years ago, the retired couple decided to give their grandchildren experiences as gifts instead of games and clothes. "I gave each kid a little box with a toy airplane in it, and I said, 'This little plane represents a trip,' " Rik says. "You decide where you want to go, and I will buy the ticket."
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Vacation Travel - 6 Tips for Traveling With Your Grandchildren